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Don’t be the “audience” for your child’s “acting”

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Don't be the "audience" for your child's "acting"

Written by: Founder & Volunteer Director of Good Love Passion 

            Lam Ho Pui Yee

Praise is often misunderstood and misused. Some parents think that praise is a “cure-all” medicine and that their children will accept any praise they are given. In fact, children can’t accept sarcastic praise, and it will only turn them off and backfire. Appropriate praise is more effective than harsh punishment. Some comments can be hurtful and can even affect a child’s personality development for the rest of his or her life. Successful parents take advantage of opportunities to praise or encourage their children, as timely and appropriate praise can be motivating and inspiring, enabling children to grow in the right direction.

Smile and make eye contact at the same time

When praising your child, parents must smile and look into your child’s eyes at the same time. Such sincere feelings are the happiest and overflowing. Because praise is a double-edged sword – the right kind of praise will make a person feel confident and happy and move forward, but the wrong kind of praise will make a child lose his or her way and stagnate.

For example, when a child refuses to “sit down”, the parent should say “please sit down” with a matching expression. If the child is willing to comply, the parent can praise him immediately and then play a fun game with him. But if the child still does not comply, the parent can immediately take the child away from the scene to divert attention and guide him to follow instructions. Or when you tell the child to put the toy away, but he still looks at you and tosses the toy, testing to see if you will let him go. You can then say to him in a calm and gentle tone, “Please put the toys away gently,” or “Let’s learn to put away the toys together, okay?

Guide your child to understand that expression is appropriate

Parents don’t have to tolerate their children’s bad behavior and minimize arguing or reassuring remarks, which only gives the child more room to continue “acting out” because they have found an “audience”, and some children may even be aggravated by your ignoring them or getting upset. We need to guide our children to understand that the only way to get what they want is to express themselves in an appropriate way. As long as the parent persists, the child will understand that the behavior will not get the parent’s attention and will naturally give up.

If the child stops this behavior, the parent can respond immediately by praising him for being quiet and then diverting his attention to other activities. Whenever a child receives praise from others, he or she will naturally exude confidence and joy, as well as a sense of trust and affection for the person who praised him or her. However, the repetition of a single form of praise over time can be ineffective, so parents should be careful to be creative in their praise.

Pay attention to the tone of voice and lead by example

Children are a gift from God, and it is only through love that other aspects of accomplishment do not become a form of bragging and pride. The difference in the tone of voice is enough to affect the parent-child relationship of detachment or closeness. Parents’ emotions and behaviors are related to their children’s future learning attitudes and personality traits. Because children mostly learn by groping and imitation, children will observe their parents’ treatment of others and use of words and phrases to learn their own emotional management and interpersonal relationships, so the importance of parents leading by example cannot be ignored. Even a hug, a smile or a look can establish a kind of appreciation. Parents are far more influential to children than teachers or peers. The more encouragement a child receives as they grow, the better it will be for their future development.

Each child has different characteristics, and parents should observe and explore their potential, allowing them to develop according to their strengths. “Encouragement helps children to grow, while scolding makes them timid. But the two must go hand in hand and not be biased.” Only through a clear distinction between rewards and punishments can children feel loved by their parents and know how to face mistakes and take responsibility for their own development.

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Eye rubbing too much. What to do if eye inflammation?

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Eye rubbing too much. What to do if eye inflammation?

Written by : Dr Cheung Kit

Every child has his or her own characteristics. As a parent, you may not be able to tell what your child is trying to express by their expressions, behaviors and vocalizations. Take the example of a child’s reaction to dozing, the form of expression varies from person to person.Some may cry, some may lose their temper, some may rub their eyes, or a variety of other reactions. Among the many reactions, in my position as a doctor,the most unwanted habit is “rubbing eyes” because this will easily cause inflammation.

 

Eye inflammation is not caused by unclean hands

Interestingly, the inflammation was not due to the child’s unclean hands, but to other causes. In this case, the inflammation was not initially caused by bacteria, but by a blockage of the secretory glands near the eyelashes. When the hand rubs against the eye, the originally open ventral outlet is disrupted by the external pressure, causing pressure in the gland as the oil cannot be expelled, which then causes an inflammatory reaction. This inflammatory reaction is superficially the same as a normal bacterial inflammation. The difference is that in this case, antibiotics (topical and oral) are not effective. The correct method is to do warm compresses for your eyes, which is intended to open the blocked outlet and make the inflammation disappear slowly.

How to treat eye acne

To treat an existing eye acne, besides seeing a doctor, the most basic method is to do warm compresses as described above. Choose a reheatable heat pack or use a lightly heated towel. Do warm compresses for 5 minutes, 3 times a day. The need for antibiotics is at the discretion of the doctor. However, the following principles apply.

 

– Whether the inflammation of the eye acne exceeds the normal case

– Is there any bacterial inflammation of the conjunctiva?

– Is the tissue around the eye red and painful?

– Whether the child is able to control his or her own eye rubbing to reduce the possibility of bacterial inflammation

 

Early treatment of ophthalmia

If the inflammation is not controlled, the swelling may not disappear on its own. In this case, surgical release of the swelling is a must. Although it may sound scary, the procedure is actually a simple one and only requires local anaesthesia. Therefore, parents only need to follow the doctor’s advice and they can rest assured.

All in all, our biggest fear is not that our children’s hands are dirty, but that they keep rubbing eyes. If the eye infection is caused by nasal allergy, eye allergy and eczema, parents must take it seriously. Parents should feel free to use medication when they want to, without having to worry about how long it will take and the side effects that may occur.

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Parent-Child Sports Game Day and the 26th Parent-Teacher Association and the 20th Alumni Association Committee Inauguration Ceremony

Parent-Child Sports Game Day and the 26th Parent-Teacher Association and the 20th Alumni Association Committee Inauguration Ceremony

Our kindergarten encourages parents and children to do more exercises. We will hold the “Parent-Child Sports Game Day” at Siu Lun Sports Ground on 29th November, 2022 (Tuesday). Also, the “26th Parent-Teacher Association and the 20th Alumni Association Committee Inauguration Ceremony” were held at the same time, and the related activities will be covered by the “2022-2023 Application for Home-School Co-operation Grants (Grants) – For the Annual Grant under the Subsidy for PTA of Type 1 grant”. The details of the event are listed below:

  • Date: 29 November 2022 (Tuesday)
  • Meeting and Location: Siu Lun Sports Ground (Siu Lun Sports Ground, 16 Siu Lun Street, Tuen Mun)
  • Meeting Time: 9:00 am (Parents are requested to arrive at the gate of the playground 15 minutes in advance and report to the class teacher.)
  • Dissolution Time: about 12:00 noon
  • Clothing: neat school sports uniforms, parents need to wear light clothing or sports clothing. (Parents can dress their children in summer or winter sports uniforms according to the weather)
  • Activities:

       Part 1 : Inauguration Ceremony

       Ceremony process :

  1. Speeches by the principal and the chairman of the Parent-Teacher Association.
  2. Issuance of Letter of Appointment.

       Part 2 : Parent-child sports games

       Activities:

  • Project 1:  Warm-up exercise
  • Project 2:  Start Ceremony
  • Project 3:  Children’s competition, parent-child games
  • Project 4:  Rest and relaxation exercise

      Remark:

  1. In the event of bad weather or wind and rain on the day of the Games, including the hoisting of Typhoon Signal No. 3 or above, and the red or black rainstorm warning at 7:00 a.m. on that day, the event will be cancelled.
  2. Each participating student must bring sufficient water (with a water bottle with the name already on it) and must be accompanied by a parent.
  3. Participants should keep the venue clean, take care of their belongings and take care of their children to ensure safety.
  4. Due to the epidemic, parents and students are required to meet the requirements of vaccine passports.

K3 Class Meeting

K3 Class Meeting

The K3 class meetings will be hosted by class teachers in November 2022. In order to strengthen the communication between parents and our school, and let parents understand how the children learn in school. The date and time of the activities are listed below:

Date

Class

Time for the morning and afternoon class meeting

18th November, 2022 (Friday)

K3A am

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

18th November, 2022 (Friday)

K3A pm

4:15pm to 4:45pm

21st November, 2022 (Monday)

K3B am and

K3B whole day class without hosting

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

 

The whole day class

Date

Class

Time for whole day class meeting

21st November, 2022 (Monday)

K3 whole day class

4:15pm to 4:45pm

Remark:

 

1.Please enter the auditorium side door.

2. Due to the epidemic, at most 1 parent can participate in the K1 class meeting, and Vaccine Pass is required.

K2 class meeting

K2 class meeting

The K2 class meetings will be hosted by class teachers in November 2022. In order to strengthen the communication between parents and our school, and let parents understand how the children learn in school. The date and time of the activities are listed below:

Date

Class

Time for the morning and afternoon class meeting

22nd November, 2022 (Tuesday)

K2A am

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

22nd November, 2022 (Tuesday)

K2A pm

4:15pm to 4:45pm

23rd November, 2022 (Wednesday)

K2B am and

K2B whole day class without hosting

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

The whole day class

Date

Class

Time for whole day class meeting

22nd November, 2022 (Tuesday)

K2 whole day class

4:15pm to 4:45pm

Remark:

1. Please enter through the main entrance of the auditorium.

2. Due to the epidemic, at most 1 parent can participate in the K1 class meeting, and Vaccine Pass is required.

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K1 Class Meeting

K1 Class Meeting

The K1 class meetings will be hosted by class teachers in November 2022. In order to strengthen the communication between parents and our school, and let parents understand how the children learn in school. The date and time of the activities are listed below:

Date

Class

Time for the morning and afternoon class meeting

24th November, 2022 (Thursday)

K1A am

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

24th November, 2022 (Thursday)

K1A pm

4:15pm to 4:45pm

25th November, 2022 (Friday)

K1B am and

K1B whole day class without hosting

12:00 noon to 12:30 pm

The whole day class 

Date

Class

Time for whole day class meeting

24th November, 2022 (Thursday)

K1 whole day class

4:15pm to 4:45pm

Remark:

1. Please enter through the entrance of the school office.

2. Due to the epidemic, at most 1 parent can participate in the K1 class meeting, and Vaccine Pass is required.